Dating: How to Overcome the Height Deficit
Posted on: October 3, 2011
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Hey all. I said I would post something today, so here it is. [Excuse my appearance, I had just gotten off work and look kinda rough] I basically explain how I award “points” to potential dates who may be lacking in one area, but make up for it with other qualities. Some things are easier to compensate for than others, obviously. I tried not to talk too long, even though it’s still like 8 minutes long. =/
Shoutouts to: @WisdomIsMisery (referred to as “WIM” in the video) @_chunk_ @bruiser_ham @LaDiDa5 @OG_Humble_One <— They all contributed to the convo this afternoon at one point or another.
So again: What criteria do you use to “score” potential dates? Have you dated a short man/tall woman? Is my short rule too harsh? Talk to me in the comments.
25 Responses to "Dating: How to Overcome the Height Deficit"
October 4, 2011 at 9:08 am
Yeah, I don’t believe that “looks are pretty irrelevant.” I think looks are “pretty irrelevant” if you have more than one girl, lol….b/c your main might be the better looking female, but the other chick(s) might have other redeeming qualities.
More to your point, you don’t have to defend, explain or rationalize to anyone why you like what you like (unless you’re doing it solely for the point of conversation)…
October 4, 2011 at 9:34 am
Lol. Did I sound defensive? Probably. But trust me, I’m completely happy with my “system” and really was just clarifying how I value certain attributes over others when considering who I date. [namely height/nice teeth etc] When people say that looks don’t matter, I really think that they’re lying. They might be telling the truth, but I just can’t relate to that statement.
As I said, looks aren’t everything, but what else do you really have to go on when meeting a complete stranger?
[Also, I've been slipping with these new posts, so I wanted to make a vid because it didn't require too much prep]
October 4, 2011 at 9:10 am
Oh, and the “he has felonies”…yeah, that should be a deal breaker. Just sayin’…lol
October 4, 2011 at 9:37 am
Ha! I’ve actually dated a guy with a felony. In my opinion, it was just a stupid mistake he made and I could overlook it at the time. Now that I’m older I may not be able to look past that, but here in Cleveland… The first thing I do when I meet a guy is check public records. 8/10 have had a felony. SMH
October 4, 2011 at 9:47 am
1. WIM’s teeth are awesome. I watched a vlog he did on max-logic.com and was in heaven. He’s probably the only guy I know who has teeth that rival mine
People try to dismiss The Plight of the Tall Girl. We’re are more than likely picked on as kids for being tall, only to become an adult and realize that alot of men still haven’t caught up with us height wise. I’m 5’8 myself, and while I’ve dated dudes my height and shorter (while in high school)…yes, ideally…I’d like for a guy to be taller than me. I don’t think that’s too much to ask!!!
And teeth are def important. Can’t do Yuck Mouth McNasty at all.
And I c/s the felony thing b/c it hits close to home. My brother did something dumb ONE TIME and got knocked. However, he made the most of his time and by the time he got out was admitted to Rutgers University and his on his way to finishing his B.A. has held a job, and participates in several activities on campus, and even has a side business doing photography. I know he may not be the norm…but I’m just saying.
October 4, 2011 at 10:42 am
See, now I have to go find this vid and develop an e-crush on his teeth. SMH. By the end of this comment thread his head should be pumped up to a seriously unsafe level.
But see, this is exactly why Lala is my homie. We stay >>here<< on everything. #TeamTallGirls understand my plight. Being so tall at a young age (I think I hit 5'0" when I was in 3rd grade), I developed this awkward complex about myself. I used to have bad posture because I would try to make myself shorter so I wouldn't stand out so much. Now, I love my height, but all the tall men are snatched up by these itty bitty chicks! I like to feel small, too, dammit. I feel like it's a feminine thing.
October 4, 2011 at 10:58 am
It’s funny, I was having a conversation on twitter with a couple of friends about this. One woman is like 5’1 or so, but she won’t date anyone under 6’0″…the other is like 5’4″ and won’t mind dating men under 6’0″ and is trying to tell the shorter woman that a dude at 5’8″- 5’9″ still has like over a half a foot on you…why are you so selfish toward the taller women?? Lol! Alas, the shorter woman wouldn’t budge on her criteria…she likes what she likes…her main reason was that she didn’t want to have any short children and have them picked on or ridiculed for being short, lol. *shrugs* I guess..
October 4, 2011 at 11:05 am
c/s
I swear I’ve been this tall since like 8th or 9th grade. Real talk! I too used to slouch terribly and didn’t want to be the center of attention. Some days I still feel like that, but for the most part, I’ve embraced my height.
October 4, 2011 at 10:53 am
I am unable to view the video at work so I’ll check it out later, but this:
“As I said, looks aren’t everything, but what else do you really have to go on when meeting a complete stranger?”
I feel like this is most men’s argument in the “do looks matter” debate while females, generally speaking, take the “it’s what’s on the inside that matters” side. Not saying what’s on the inside doesn’t matter, but it’s refreshing to know there are women out there that don’t mind admitting that at first glance physical attractiveness will initially trump anything else…..key word being initially…
October 4, 2011 at 11:06 am
Exactly, all you have to go on is the outside package at first.
October 4, 2011 at 11:49 am
yeah. i’m winning.
looks matter. i wish people would be realistic. i want a woman who looks good (at least to me). when “sizing” up a woman i look for things like height (5’7-5’9) would be ideal but i’ve dated women 5’2-6’0.
things like teeth, healthiness of skin, weight, eyebrows also come to mind as far as physical preferences.
as far as personality wise a woman who is funny or can make me laugh goes a long way. intelligence is also a big turn on. if she can cook well that also gets points in my book.
October 4, 2011 at 12:09 pm
*raises hand* Ahem. I was a sous chef for three years. I’m usually not one to blow my own horn, but ‘toot, toot.’ I can cook my lovely ass off.
According to your list, though, I’m also full of win. Yaay for me!
October 4, 2011 at 12:24 pm
LOL at the teeth crush business. I stopped worrying about heights (under 5’7). Some guys don’t mind, so I guess it doesn’t matter. I’m 5’8″ too (woot woot!) and sure a tall dude it fun to climb on, but my lil 5’8 man can square up with me and probably has a lot more strength than I imagined. Looks definitely matter. Call it the shallowness in me. I don’t care. I want someone I can roll over to in the AM and smile like, “I knew I got you for a reason.” Hygiene in important. Health responsibility is a MUST. I’m not health nut but don’t slack. Please 
Take care of yourself. I go to the gym, come with me. I wanna run, tag along.
And if you just… love me. *sigh* Don’t get me started. With all this said, height isn’t a dealbreaker but I love my height & up anyday..
October 4, 2011 at 10:34 pm
Looks do matter initially to me, but I usually put guys that are too fine in a “do not touch” part of my mind. I can’t think straight around a guy who looks too good, and I don’t mind discriminating against a guy these days just because he’s just too d**n fine.
I typically prefer guys who are over 6 ft and have dark skin. But most of the guys I usually end up dating are lighter than I am, and in the past 5 or so years I’ve only dated one guy who’s over 6 ft. So physical preferences overall play very little part in deciding who to date.
Nice blog, btw.
October 6, 2011 at 12:17 pm
Thank you! I appreciate the comment & compliment.
I wish I didn’t want the fine ones, I really do. But I’m the type to get hung up on some physical attribute that I just don’t like, and I’ll think about it nonstop. “Like, he’s so great, but his eyes are just too close together! He’s so short, etc, etc…” I’m a mess.
October 5, 2011 at 3:36 am
First time reader & commenter here. I was going to let everyone else have at this one, but I decided against it. I don’t think any of your rules are too harsh. One person’s picky is another person’s thorough. That’s how I see it.
October 22, 2011 at 9:25 am
This was good. I gotta respect the fact that you like what you like and that’s it! I’ve dated Hispanic exclusively fa ever ever and I catch heat from the sisters for it alllllllllllllll the time (my 2 sisters specifically..lol) But I likes what I like so fugg it!..lol
Looks are important but that ish fades. I try to keep this concept fresh in my head when courting/dating. I’d rather love a chick for who she is and what shes about. Attraction is important but it shouldn’t stop there.
October 22, 2011 at 9:29 am
PS ya point list will change as you get older..lol God forbid you single @ 30, that list going in the garbage..lol
October 3, 2011 at 10:45 pm
To be completely honest, looks are pretty irrelevant to me as long as we aren’t referring to extremes. If I enjoy your company, that is all that matters.
October 3, 2011 at 11:03 pm
So you’re going to approach just any old chick, as long as she’s decent looking?
October 4, 2011 at 9:36 am
Yes. I consider myself to be a pretty average dude aesthetically speaking. No need for me to have extreme highs. If I don’t like to be around you then it’s irrelevant how you look.